TOXIC Relationships

TOXIC RELATIONSHIP
– a relationship between two people that has become unhealthy whether emotionally, physically or spiritually;
– a relationship fails or finds it difficult to attain its relationship goals and commitments to maintain their status
– a relationship wherein one or both of them feels unhappy or unsatisfied with the other person or the turn of events

Lately, I’ve heard some issues of people I know who is in a toxic relationship. Some of them¬†are on the verge of having a huge conflict while others unfortunately have ended it already.

At times when people come to you about their problems, you just have to listen, but not in my case. I like to interfere in these situations.

I am no expert in love and about relationships nor at giving advice. I only know is¬†to tell people what they want to hear. Yes, maybe we could just be passive listeners, but remember,¬†you won’t be able to help that person grow by listening.

Alam ko hindi madali ang maging ‘in a relationship’. Oo, masaya pero hindi laging masaya.

“Hindi araw-araw kilig. Hindi araw-araw pasko.” -Lola Nidora.

Walang kaginhawaan ang hindi dumadaan sa hirap. We go through rocks at one point in our relationships. Pero kung lagi naman kayo nandun sa stage na laging nagaaway, hindi na¬†nagkakaintindihan, aba mahirap na yun. It’s not a healthy relationship. You’re in a toxic relationship.

Perhaps you feel naging masyadong controlling yun partner mo o di kaya boring? O kaya dahil sa sobrang familiarity at kaya nagkasawaan na?

Maybe, the problem is that you forgot the essence of love in a relationship. Para saan nga ba ang magkaroon ng partner?

Always make sure that in every day, every second and every minute of your life, you let yourself be in love with your partner. (Love, Wedding & Marriage)

Oo, mahirap masaktan, but that’s part of life. We all get hurt. We are humans. The thing is‚Ķ do you get hurt with the right reasons?
Ewan ko ba ah pero alam kong mahirap panghawakan ang isang bagay na di naman nagpapasaya sayo.

It’s difficult to hold to something that hurts you.

Kung ang buhay ng tao kailangan ng food and shelter to survive, ang relationship din kailangan ng maintenance. It’s up to you how to spice up your relationship.

Kung hindi ka na masaya sa relationship mo bakit kailan pang magtagal?Kung pinapaasa ka lang naman ng tao, bakit ka magpapakatanga? Bakit pa maghihintay to the point na mas lalo ka lang masasaktan?

Choices lang naman yan. You have the ability to choose your path, to make the right choices. May karapatan kang lumigaya sa tamang oras, sa tamang tao.

Oo siguro mahirap iwanan ang isang bagay na nakasanayan mo na. Eh ang tanong, paano kung sa katagalan ganoon pa din, mas mahirap, papayag ka pa rin ba na ganoon nalang?

Will you stay? Or will you give yourself a chance for a better life, for a better partner. You need to be with someone who allows you to grow or who is willing to grow with you.

Relationships are about how someone completes you in your imperfections. It’s about being with someone who accepts you and understands you in any circumstances. It’s not just about flowers, chocolates neither time nor distance be the factor of it.

It’s about your determination to maintain a healthy and wonderful relationship with someone against all odds.

Looks, money, comfortableness or even the length of the relationship doesn’t define it. Love defines¬†the importance of that special person – the quality, the happiness it gives in your life.

You know it is love when you can’t feel anything but it.¬†– Barefoot

Kung hindi ka na din naman nabibigyan ng oras, halaga at pagmamahal, huwag ka na matiyaga. ANG LOVE BINIBIGAY SA ISANG TAONG DESERVING. HINDING-HINDI SINASAYANG ANG PAGMAMAHAL.

Kung hindi mo na mahal, huwag mo nang paasahin. Lahat naman ng bagay naayos sa paguusap at hindi sa silent treatment na naghihintay ka nalang na makipag-break siya sayo. Hindi ba’t mas magandang tapusin ang isang bagay nang may¬†pagkakaintindihan. Ang problema hinaharap, hindi iniiwan sa ere.

Huwag maging manhid. Huwag maging martyr. Mahalaga ka para mahalin ng iba at hindi saktan.

I am not sure of what I am really talking about here because I have never been in an intimate relationship. But after hearing stories, watching alot of romcom or romantic movies and reading romantic novels, I know enough to say these words to you. Meron din naman ako pinaghuhugutan

In the end, it’s all up to you‚Ķ
All you have to do is to answer this question:
Is it still worth fighting for?

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Kaya tayo sinasaktan ng taong mahal natin kasi baka may darating na isang tao na mas magmamahal sa atin, yun hindi tayo sasaktan.
-Popoy, One More Chance

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When you get into a relationship, you fall in love. May mananakit, may masasaktan. May mangiiwan, may naiiwan.
-Clark Medina, On The Wings of Love

Better way of making the right decision in life is to weigh things…

I’m 20 and still kicking!

Hooray for I just turned 20 years old today!

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Last year, on my birthday, I was 19 and told myself that I’m getting old. And I don’t want to be old yet. I still want to be young – to be a teenager. I used to think that I haven’t live my life yet. I wasn’t ready to let go of my teenage years.

Awhile ago, my friend asked me,
How does it feels to be twenty?
I told her that a year ago I don’t feel like getting old then. But now, I can say that I feel more matured and happy with my life.

Life is a journey through maturity and through the struggles we go through to survive it. Here I am, twenty years old, alive and kicking. I have faced life’s challenges for the past 20 years – ever since I cried when I came out of my mother’s womb to being picky with meals, having to bear the bed wetting days to having fight with friend and ended up losing alot, from the moment I almost fell in love to the point when I realized my purpose in life.

In every second, every minute of our lives we become mature. We experience things to better know the world. We constantly change to be the person we want to be. And I can say that I have grown into a wonderful woman, with parents who raised me well as a person and I couldn’t ask for any better. Through my struggles, I have become who I am now.

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A compassionate being with an understanding heart. A friend who thinks of the benefits of others than hers. A person passionate for change. And a humble human blessed with God’s grace to make a difference in this world.

Lastly, I want to say Goodbye to my teenage years, and also to my childhood. Thank you for the memories that made me who I am now.

The only wish that I have for my birthday is… I wish to become a better person, for me to embrace more people and be able to leave a mark in this world. I may fully love the people around me.

Lastly, Thank You God for bringing me to where I am and for leading me to where I should be. ūüėÄ