It was a Rhetorical Question

A Rhetorical Question is when you ask a person a question but you really don’t want an answer to it. You just ask it for the sake of bringing some enlightenment or reminder.

In my Philippine literature class, my professor asked us to write one question on an index card. Any question that we would like to ask or would want to know. So I always wonder: if all people would just learn how to understand one another, the world will be a better place to live in.

So my professor asked for my question and I said (in Filipino) “Bakit may mga taong di maka-intindi?” As I translate it, “Why are there people in this world who can’t seem to understand?” That is my rhetorical question. Because I already know the answer. I know why some people can’t and will not understand.

First, people have different views and beliefs in life. Obviously, how would people understand one another if they just seem to see things in different perspectives? Well, it’s good that the world is filled with people who have different opinions. But the question is – how could we have understanding if we don’t have a common goal? One of the most inspiring quotes I got from attending The Feast (a prayer meeting for Catholics founded by Kerygma preacher Bo Sanchez) is:

“If we only understand and appreciate our differences, we will avoid a lot of fights – and grow closer to each other.”

And I find that this is exactly my principle in life.

Second, they just don’t seem to care to understand. People who act like this are simply ignorant and carefree people. They think having no response is the response, but that is just absurd. It just appears that they are so selfish not to think about other people. It is said in God’s second greatest commandment: Love thy neighbor as you love yourself. One will never understand another if you will not allow yourself to appreciate other people. A little bit of care and sympathy is all it takes to show compassion.

Last reason why people don’t see to understand – and probably the main reason why we have a chaos in the world – is PRIDE. As in pride, wherein a person only sees and thinks what he wants to sees and thinks, for short, close-minded person. According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary, Pride is a feeling that you are more important or better than other people. I hate people having such pride. I can’t deny but I used to be one but I’ve changed, I have become more understanding of the people and the situation around me. I know enough how to handle people with such high pride, and that is to IGNORE THEM. If you ever try to argue with them, trust me, you will never win. Never ever. They will just keep shouting at you (or just making their point all over and over to you) They will never stop unless you tell them they are right.

Lately, I had an encounter (or let’s say an argument) with exactly that kind of person. I feel so sad for them, for I know they will never change. And it’s really hard to deal with it. All you have to do is to Understand. Just Accept them for who they are. I know it’s difficult to not do something about it. But by it, you’re gonna have one less problem.

I’m starting with the man in the mirror. I’m asking him to change his ways. No message could have been any clearer. If you wanna make a world a better place, take a look at yourself and make that change.

Michael Jackson

Start the change within you. Be a good example.

Show them what humanity is…

Show them what the world needs, and that is UNDERSTANDING

Chick Lit: What You Do To Me

Sometimes when people know that you are reading a Chick Lit book, they assume that you are one hopeless romantic person. I love reading those kind of books (but it doesn’t mean that is the only genre I read). Chick lit novels are definitely shallow and mostly dreamy. It is very idealistic that it portrays what the readers want to feel about love and relationships. It always has the cliche thing – girl meets boy, they fall in love and kiss, boy makes girl problematic and she cries, but in the end, something happens and Happy Ending! But ofcourse, it doesn’t mean that all chicklit novels have the same plot. They differ in each way. 2 weeks ago, I finished this book called “Real Life Boyfriends – Ruby Oliver Novel”. It made me smile. I felt so happy with the ending. It showed how young and naive teenagers become mature about their relationships as they face struggles. The main character encounter difficulties in her relationship with her boyfriend. Only to know, the way to get through him is to have some space. Then, it allows you to have deep understanding of each other. Then the book ended happily πŸ™‚ They made up without having the talk; it seems like nothing ever happened between them. They just make-out and boom! Makes your heart smiling πŸ˜€

After reading that book, I read ‘To All The Boys I’ve Before’ by Jenny Han. This is the second book series that I’ve read of her. (First was ‘The Summer I Turned Pretty’ trilogy.) And yes, there would be a 2nd book to this that will be published next year entitled ‘P.S. I Still Love You’. Definitely there should be a sequel because this book left me hanging, so are the thousand girls who have read it. I like Jenny Han’s writing because it seems so family-oriented which is good for me because I grew up believing in that kind of principle. It’s not some typical romance novel about the main couple, its about the factors that affect the relationship and how it also builds them up to be mature about it.

So the book is about how this inexperienced 16-year old girl suddenly had troubles with boys when her ‘farewell letters’ got sent (which are not supposed to be because those were only to remind her that she has moved on from those guys). There. I don’t want to spoil.

Main realization: books, they just surprise you. Different books, different authors… they just give you different views in life, love and relationship. Whether it is a classic novel, sci-fi, fantasy or even comic books, it teaches you alot – things you don’t know before. I may not have much any experience on love and relationships – or maybe not at all- but through these lovely books, I keep learning πŸ™‚ So, don’t tell me that I’m not in the position to give relationship advice! Hahaha just kidding πŸ˜€ but I know some, you know πŸ™‚